The Selfie Mindset and the Heart’s Posture

One of my husband’s favorite jokes is about the Last Supper. It goes like this:

Everyone who wants to be in the picture get on this side of the table!


Of course, if the Last Supper had taken place in the last ten years, we wouldn’t have needed Leonardo DaVinci’s rendition. Instead, we might have something like this:

CCuLGgwWAAAWaRQ In fact, history might look a lot different had cell phones been around since days of old:

I, for one, thank God they weren’t. I don’t think the world is ready for a Hipster Joseph and Hippie Mary.

But ridiculous as these interpretations are, they certainly reflect how the new century has brought us a new mindset. The Selfie Mindset.




Today, many people are over-documenting and over-posting.


Sounds a bit Seinfeldian, doesn’t it?

“He’s an over-poster. Yesterday, he shared six pictures of himself at the sperm bank–apparently Shadonna is having some problems conceiving. They need to see if his boys can swim.”


“She’s been over-documenting her relationship with Thaalgaard the Swede. I’ve seen every moment she’s spent with him since he got off the plane. I can even tell you exactly where old Thaal’s birthmark is–the sun doesn’t shine there, but the camera flash does.” 

And here’s another reason to shiver at the name, Kardashian:

Every time a phone comes out, images (10)women transform into red-carpet form:

Arms akimbo like chicken wings, body on a diagonal, leg bent for elongation, and a perfect yearbook smile. Give me the strength.

Why so serious, ladies? It’s like every passing moment is an audition for America’s Next Top Bimbo. 

  • What happened to natural beauty and spontaneity?
  • What about being present in the moment?
  • What about the surprise of having a man tell you how beautiful you look when you are completely and totally at ease and without pretense?
  • Or do single men no longer pay compliments face-to-face?

Judging from the couples I see out and about, everyone is texting or checking out their phones while ignoring the person sitting across from them.


And yet, for all this disconnectedness, apparently, there’s a new affliction out there. It’s called FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). This is the reason for over-posting and over-documenting.

But the irony here is that people are missing out on the best years of their lives–the best experiences are always spent looking outward from oneself.

And here’s where the heart’s posture comes in. Where your heart is, there also is your treasure. Are you looking inward or outward?

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Think about it. There’s a reason we don’t snap selfies when we’re at the altar getting married…or pushing out our babies…or falling into an unexpected kiss… or seeing the Grand Canyon…


So maybe just for a bit this Christmas, put down the cell phone and take a look past your own self-importance.


Maybe you’ll see it’s all about the journey and not not about the traveler. It’s about serving God and others.


And that is the very definition of maturity. And a beautiful way to end one year and begin the new one.

foxyAs always, thanks for reading.


Susan J. Anderson

Foxy Writer Chick

9 thoughts on “The Selfie Mindset and the Heart’s Posture

  1. Yup. It has become the norm to take selfies. I on the other hand have short arms and have never mastered the selfie and don’t intend to try! I have trouble documenting vacations etc because I’m so lost in the moment that I forget I have a camera or a phone!!

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    1. I’m old-school with my phone-camera as well. As far as vacations go, I never understood people who film their entire experience. Be there and cherish the memories with your kids and loved ones. Who is going to watch 8 hours of video in Magic Kingdom, eh?


  2. A wonderful blog! People have gotten lost in their phones and have forgotten how important human socialization and contact is for all of us.

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